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June 13, 2020

This week was an interesting week. We talked about sexual intimacy and how it can affect both partners differently. It seems that society thinks of sex as a very casual thing that is more of a bargaining chip and less of a tool to grow closer to your partner. Then again, it really seems like society tends to get things incorrect. Especially if you were to listen to the media, they basically just sell whatever you want to buy regardless of its truthfulness. It’s almost become a running joke as to how badly the media displays its fictions. Today’s media will have us believe that we should only use sexuality as a means to obtain instant gratification or to get something that we want and instead of using it for its intended purpose which is to have children and to grow closer with a partner. People get caught up in the wrong aspects of intimacy and we see over and over that it does not lead to a happy place. People are feeding the wrong desires with in themselves and it quickly becomes...

June 06, 2020

This week in my Family Relations class we discussed some statistics pertaining to relationships where people cohabitated prior marriage verses not living together prior to marriage. The statistics pretty much stayed in line with things I have already heard when I was back in high school and they make a lot of sense in a lot of areas. It’s typical when people cohabit prior to marriage, to have a less fulfilling marriage, and a marriage that tends to be less than traditional. It was discussed through examples, that when people have a cohabit mentality prior to marriage, they tend to think of themselves as separate people and less of belonging to a family. It seemed to me that the resulting marital issues would be the result of improper family definitions rather than the fact that they cohabitated. In other words, it seemed to me that people with certain mentalities towards family and relations ships, would prefer to cohabit prior to marriage, and its these types of mentalities that l...

May 30, 2020

This last week we missed a class due to the holiday but we were able to meet on Thursday. This resulted in Thursday being a bit of a large dose of information. We spoke about preparing for marriage. This was not one of my favorite classes for sure. Never been a fan of dating and not looking forward to it the least bit, plus I'm an older student so it’s not likely to happen anytime soon anyways. Will likely wait until after graduation, but even then, meh. In fact, it’s so long since I’ve even cared about dating and relationships that I don’t remember the last time it I even cared about it. So needless to say, I had a hard time following this class. The few things I do remember discussing was different dating techniques. One of different techniques discussed was Serial Exclusive dating. This seemed somewhat rational, since the whole point of dating was to get to know someone. The best way to get to know someone that I could think of would be to spend time with this person, but appa...

May 23, 2020

This week in class we discussed gender differences between men and women. We watched a documentary filmed by ABC news that investigated some of the differences between men and women. A large portion of the differences that were discussed in this film were from the perspectives from both genders. Many arguments were made in regard to physical differences especially when strength was an issue. The documentary gave an example of how when women enroll in the military, there is a significantly lower ratio of women that are able to achieve the physical demands that are required to serve in the military. It is because of the lopsidedness of the ratio that the military then alters the physical requirement that women must meet, in order to qualify for service. Several arguments were made in both support and opposition to this alteration. Men tend to have more upper body strength than women which allows for men to achieve the heavier requirements. Another argument for a male dominated military...

May 16, 2020

This week one of the most interesting things we discussed was family cultures and how they relate to and influence the culture of society. As we know, governments are made up of communities and communities are made up of families. So it should come as no surprise that one government or country would behave differently than another. Since geographical regions usually separate countries by distance or some other boundary, the families that inhabit those regions would naturally evolve differently than their neighbors due to a lack of communication and regular interaction. This is evident in not only within the United States but also within other countries as well. It can be even be seen with two different countries that share a same border. For example how the United States and Mexico share a border but still have vastly different cultures, though we have shared and adopted different aspects of one another's culture over the years. Families tend to influence other families and as si...

May 10, 2020

This past week we discussed several different family dynamics that both help and hinder family developments. We touched on conflict theory and how it can help develop positive and negative relationship characteristics. We discussed how the white picket fence principle, that describes how outward expressions of an individual family (i.e. how they live, how they decorate their home inside and out etc.) can demonstrate how that family is functioning, or not functioning for that matter. We also discussed how like in society, families consist and operate with a list of unspoken rules, Rules that will be followed, but in order to follow them, you typically have to learn them the hard way through trial and error. One of the things I found interesting was how conflict can be used to enhance and progress a relationship if it is carried out in the right manner. For instance, the use of violence in a relationship is NOT a healthy conflict management style, but rather destroys on ...